Indulging in the Good Times

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Inauguration on the National Mall!

I was talking to my friend Jaime today and we both decided that sometimes, a little indulgence is just what you need. Whether it’s a manicure, a grilled cheese sandwich, or some serious R&R on the couch, we all deserve a little break, so don’t give yourself a hard time about it! 

When it’s this cold outside, it’s hard to be out and about. Here’s what I’ve been doing to try and remain as f&F as possible:

1. Do errands in bulk. Plan during the day what you need to get done after work and make a route that’s quick so you don’t have to back-track!

2. Walk there, cab back. Sometimes being frugal and fabulous is not getting frostbite on your nose. Just saying. It was 18 degrees in Dupont at 10pm last night. Not worth the extra $7 in pocket.

3. Make lunch! My friend made this amazing sandwich with avocado, sprouts, sun dried tomatoes and tzadziki. I’m going to have to get her fine chef self to write a guest blog on the art of making healthy lunches!

4. Split the difference. Use the buddy system and save money on food, cabs, reusable items. 

5. Turbotax.com Get that return and don’t leave it to the last second!!

xoxo maranda 

Happy 2013!

Welcome everyone to the New Year! During my extra-long break from reality in Hermosa Beach, I was wondering what I could work on in 2013. I don’t necessarily like making resolutions, since we all know how those burn out. Instead, I am trying to incorporate more elements of my own style into everyday life. 

My style for January is organization. To get a jump on spring cleaning, I’m using this month to make my things easy to find, and better yet, aesthetically pleasing. I spent a lovely morning in El Segundo falling in love all over again with The Container Store. Seriously the best ever. Photos will be up soon!

Put those smiles on for the new year. Happy organizing!

How to Deal with Mean People

This blog is all about positivity. We are all happy people here and like attracts like. Still, there comes a time in every young woman’s life when she realizes that there are people out there who are just one step away from raining on our parades.

I was reminded of this over the weekend when an old friend introduced me to a girl that he’s been seeing recently. Quite simply, and for no reason at all, she was incorrigible. Everything I said elicited a retaliatory remark, the dressy yet conservative outfit I was wearing was too seductive for her taste, and I was even accused (in front of the entire party, no less) of dating her new man. Nice though he is, the friend was just a friend.

We can’t help that there are people like this in the world, no more than we can avoid bad luck or heavy traffic. The way we are measured though is the grace and civility with which we react to such situations.

Instead of listening to Taylor Swift’s Top 20 hit “Mean” on repeat, which believe me, I’ve done, try these tips which should at least afford our classy and fabulous selves to adequately deal with these impossible persons.

  1. It’s Not Your Fault – Mean people are just mean. What helps is knowing that it truly isn’t about you. Most likely, it’s an insecurity which causes the person to blow a normal situation out of proportion in order to divert attention away from them. It’s a defense tactic where the person overcompensates for what they see as a personality flaw. If he or she acts this way to you, they probably do it to everyone. Don’t take it personally.
  2. Protect Yourself – Mean people have a way of getting to us because their day job is making their business finding out our own insecurities and using them to hurt us. Their jabs hurt because they are intentional and specific. Use your self-esteem and confidence to be conscious of what they are doing and to put yourself at ease. Don’t let them break you!
  3. Rise Above It – We all know that phrase, “Be the better man.” Employing the tactic seems cowardly and inefficient when dealing with bullies, but with a mean person, it’s almost effective every time. If you aren’t defensive, avoid anger, and give nothing away, you win. You will walk away feeling better knowing that you are the superior person. He or she will walk away smug, but honestly feeling like a piece of crap.

Remember: good always triumphs over evil. We may find that being nice is not the fastest route to get somewhere but we emerge from the other side with a good reputation and resilience. What could be more fabulous than that?